Attention On-line dating peeps!

When it comes to On-line Dating and profiles... it's hard to determine which one's are being truthful and which are including information they believe the reader wants to see so that they make that first connection.

Well, I have ran into such a person.  This has nothing to do with Shawn, everything he had in his profile seems to fit him perfectly.  This is about a man that I met yesterday out of pure coincidence, but that I had been talking to prior from one of the sites.

First off, the coincidence....  After deciding I was tired of sitting home doing nothing but playing on the computer, I took a drive down to the bar that I use to frequent when I was here 7 years ago.  The bar has changed considerably.  It now has 3 separate rooms, each stocked with a bar.  One room caters to bands when they have one, one room caters to the karaoke portion and smoking area and the last room is the main part of the bar.

So last night, prior to heading to the bar, I had been talking with this one particular person.  I didn't mention anything about going out, let alone where I was headed.  So, when I got to the bar, I had checked my messages from the site and we continued to talk for about a half hour when he mentioned he was at a bar in town listening to karaoke and mentioned the song being horribly sung...  That was what I was hearing at that exact moment.  So I stated that yes, he sucked and they needed the pole from the Gong Show.

Well when all was said and done, we met up for a game of pool.

Now, realizing at that time that he was a few sheets to the wind, I checked his profile on my phone and he had stated that he does not drink at all.  So, I brought this little fact up and according to him he was in the process of quitting, which immediately one of his friends chimed in and said that he has been trying to quit for over 20 years and how drunk he was that past Wednesday and over the previous weekend.

So not only did I have a drunk-hands on person in front of me, I had a person who literally lied in his profile.  We did continue to play pool, but that was it.  To make matters worse, he kept asking me to bet the game for a second date and continued to inform me that I could remove my profile now, I have found the man of my dreams....

Did he not think his little lie would be discovered, especially when my profile has all over it, NO Heavy or Hard Core Drinkers and as a social drinker, if they drink more than 3 beers during a night out.

So no, we will not be going out on a 2nd date!

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Communication.... ah yes, we can talk!

One of the main questions that I have found myself asking is when it comes to on-line dating, what do you do after you have met someone?  If you are unsure as to how things went for both of you, not just yourself, is it okay to continue to talk to other members?  Is it okay to show an interest in other members to potentially start up a conversation?  What are the rules here?

Although I had a great time talking and then meeting Shawn, I really don't know where we stand, what I do know is that I consider him a friend at this point.  If things should progress, then it will on it's own, nothing needing pressure over.  But in the realm of things, I really don't think I am prepared to get into a committed relationship with anyone right now, I don't know that I even want to at this point.

There hasn't been any discussion between Shawn and myself about going beyond getting to know each other better for now and I am quite content with that.  We are going to be spending some time together next week, so that will be a nice thing to look forward to.

As for the dating site, during the time when Shawn and I were in discussions to meet, I did hide my profile and I did inform those others that I had been speaking to that I was going to be meeting with someone.  Surprisingly, there was no animosity or negative words sent my direction, in fact they actually wished me luck and one gave me his number in case I had an issue and needed help, he too lives in Phoenix.

So now, I have since put my profile back up and resumed talks with the same guys.  After answering their questions on how everything went, we are back to our same conversation levels, it's really nice and according to them, it is okay to continue talking with others, it's okay to continue meeting with others until you find that one person you are seeking.

So, for now I guess I am a bit more comfortable with what I am doing, but I still wish I knew for sure what the rules of on-line dating were...   

What are the rules?

Okay, so when it comes to on-line dating, what are the rules?  Take my situation for starters.  I met Shawn through the site, spoke via text and on the phone for a few weeks and then we met.  Although things went really good, I have to view it as, 'it went good for me' as I really don't know what his thoughts are as of yet.

As I know he had a very long and busy work schedule today, despite he said he'd call me when he got home, I really don't expect a phone call until tomorrow, might get an 'all tired as hell' text, but I kind of doubt it.

So am I suppose to stop further contact with other members, can I still talk to them?  Currently I am still talking to one of the other men that I started talking to before Shawn and I met.  Is this okay, is this proper on-line dating etiquette? 

At this time I am avoiding any conversation topic that may lead to a possible meeting.  We are just chatting back and forth as we did prior.  But if he does ask, what the hell am I suppose to say, do, etc...

Wow, this is a confusing situation.  Perhaps it's another case of just allowing things to happen on their own, no stress, no expectations, etc...

In truth, if I were to be asked if I thought Shawn would want to pursue a relationship together, in all honesty, I don't know.  Now that I am thinking about it, despite that I really do like him, maybe the fact that I am questioning everything is a red flag for myself that maybe, just maybe I am not ready to jump back into a relationship.

Okay, I am allowing my brain to go on over-drive here, time to stop and just chill!  Phew, being single is tough!

Taking a chance...

Okay, so I have found myself talking with a gentleman that I met on an on-line dating site, although there are two left over from the ones that I weeded out, this one actually had me at ease and comfortable enough to exchange phone numbers for a bit of texting back and forth.

We started sending text messages to each other at about 3 pm yesterday and I finally fell asleep on him at about 3:30 this morning!  Not only does he have an awesome sense of humor, but we never ran out of things to talk about, it was nice, actually it is still nice, we are once again chatting via text.  However, we are going to be talking on the phone in about a half hour, soooooo nervous!

So the day has been a good one.