Attention On-line dating peeps!

When it comes to On-line Dating and profiles... it's hard to determine which one's are being truthful and which are including information they believe the reader wants to see so that they make that first connection.

Well, I have ran into such a person.  This has nothing to do with Shawn, everything he had in his profile seems to fit him perfectly.  This is about a man that I met yesterday out of pure coincidence, but that I had been talking to prior from one of the sites.

First off, the coincidence....  After deciding I was tired of sitting home doing nothing but playing on the computer, I took a drive down to the bar that I use to frequent when I was here 7 years ago.  The bar has changed considerably.  It now has 3 separate rooms, each stocked with a bar.  One room caters to bands when they have one, one room caters to the karaoke portion and smoking area and the last room is the main part of the bar.

So last night, prior to heading to the bar, I had been talking with this one particular person.  I didn't mention anything about going out, let alone where I was headed.  So, when I got to the bar, I had checked my messages from the site and we continued to talk for about a half hour when he mentioned he was at a bar in town listening to karaoke and mentioned the song being horribly sung...  That was what I was hearing at that exact moment.  So I stated that yes, he sucked and they needed the pole from the Gong Show.

Well when all was said and done, we met up for a game of pool.

Now, realizing at that time that he was a few sheets to the wind, I checked his profile on my phone and he had stated that he does not drink at all.  So, I brought this little fact up and according to him he was in the process of quitting, which immediately one of his friends chimed in and said that he has been trying to quit for over 20 years and how drunk he was that past Wednesday and over the previous weekend.

So not only did I have a drunk-hands on person in front of me, I had a person who literally lied in his profile.  We did continue to play pool, but that was it.  To make matters worse, he kept asking me to bet the game for a second date and continued to inform me that I could remove my profile now, I have found the man of my dreams....

Did he not think his little lie would be discovered, especially when my profile has all over it, NO Heavy or Hard Core Drinkers and as a social drinker, if they drink more than 3 beers during a night out.

So no, we will not be going out on a 2nd date!

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Sunday Bliss....

So the date with Shawn finally happened.  It was a great time spent playing pool, swimming, barbeque's and just getting to know each other.  I also had a chance to spend some time with his 2 dogs, gorgeous dogs!  Perhaps someday I will post a photo of them, pretty much want to see where things go for us first and of course, get his permission.

The spot we ended up at for our First Date / Meeting was a great place, called BullShooters in Phoenix.  The music was perfect, the atmosphere was pretty friendly, it was just what I feel is the perfect location for a first date if both parties like Pool, Darts, well pretty much a sporty feel.  There were also a few junior pool leagues going on in there.

Although I thoroughly enjoyed myself, it comes with a bit of guilt for two reasons.

First off, I did stay the night at his house and this morning he had to work.  Last night he informed me that his boys would be coming by the house to use the pool, probably early but a time wasn't specified.  Well this morning he told me they would probably be there around 10am.  Without thinking first, I got up, got dressed and out the door I went, that quick!  Why the guilt?  Well, I feel as though I may have given him the wrong impression that I didn't want to meet his boys and therefore was trying to avoid them as quickly as I could.... that is the farthest from the truth though.

It has been such a long time since I have found someone who I truly connected with, it has been such a long time since I have actually looked forward to the possibility that I could be truly happy with someone.  I have Shawn to thank for that.  Whether we end up together as a couple or just friends, either way I view it, I will have gained a lot.

So this whole situation with his boys had nothing to do with wanting to avoid them, I would prefer to find out where him and I stand first and also, I didn't want to put him in a situation that he would have to explain my presence and perhaps have to deal with the ex as well.

Secondly, I have some guilt in the fact that I was very much against even considering dating someone again.  So, my mind goes back to the friend of my mom's whose brother and I went on a date just a couple of weeks ago.  There has been no issue's, in fact we are getting together for a few games of pool on Friday, as friends.  But I feel guilty because I know he is interested in more and yet, I am not, with him that is.....  I just don't know if this is a situation I bring up to him or not?  I want to be respectful towards him and yet I don't know how something like this is even handled... ughhhhhhhhhhh!  Being single is so confusing!

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Rabbits, Scorpion and a Date, Oh My!

First of all, although I am not in anyway a Toby Keith fan due to a personal experience after meeting the jerk, although it happened well over 10 years ago when I worked for a casino in Jackson, CA, it was enough to keep a lasting-bad taste impression on me.  But still I have to say that I like the song, Red Solo Cup.  Just needed to get that out since it just came on the radio.

Okay, now to the post at hand.....

Rabbits.... these lil' shits are causing mother some major issue.  Every time the grass starts to grow, these guys come along and eat it back down to nothing.  She has tried a fence, she has tried deterrent suggestions and even chases them off (which is rather hilarious at times since the leader of the pack just glares at her).  Anyway, this is a picture of just 3 of the 5 that frequent the yard.

Scorpion.... this guy or gal literally gave me the worse case of the willies... It was found just above the door in the garage that leads into the house.  That sucker could have dropped on me and I would have been in traction as I ran all over the place, arms flailing, etc... ewwwwwwwwwwww....

A date....  So the dinner date with my new friend went rather well.  Although he picked the restaurant, it was only after getting my input on the type of food I liked, he already knew that I liked Mexican but asked for an alternate.  We ended up going to De Marco's, the Italian Restaurant here in town.

After hanging out and talking at the restaurant for a bit, we headed over to a local bar that was what I consider the perfect atmosphere for me, several people inside and music playing, but not to the point where we couldn't hear each other during our conversations.

After hanging out there and playing a few games of pool, we broke even and agreed to break the tie next time.  I am quite happy to say that he was okay with me wanting to just have a friend to do things with right now.  So on Sunday, he is joining us for breakfast, he already knows my parents so he said there is no nerves to be frayed on meeting the parents... lol!

He brought me home just short of 10:00pm, he didn't want the parents getting worried about me, plus he has to work in the morning.  So all in all, it was a great night.

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Out and about

Since arriving here in Arizona, I haven't really ventured out all that much on my own, with the exception of the last minute dinner invitation from a romantic interest, hmmmm, feels weird to actually say that, I have a romantic interest, feels pretty cool.

In all honesty, I am keeping a lid on the dating for now, I wouldn't mind spending some quality time with someone who isn't one of my parents, going to a movie, out for a few games of pool or even for a little walk around the block, perhaps I need to head out and find a few girlie-girls to hang out with on Friday nights.  I don't know, I just know that I am getting cabin fever!

As for the dinner date tonight, I am still honoring that, we definitely had a lot to talk about last time, plus he wants to go shoot a few games of pool afterwards.  So I am hoping he will be understanding in my decision to continue my breather from dating and be just as content as a friend, and someone to hang out with once in a while.  In all honesty, my mind still revolves around the AZ Drummer, which I know, give it time, give it time.....

If it goes any further with my new friend, then so be it, but for now, I am pretty confident in my decision. 

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